Whose Life is it Anyway?!?!

Yes, I asked you, "Whose life is it anyway?!?!" It seems like a fairly simple question, doesn't it? Yet, for many, it is indeed challenging to respond. You see, many of us have been at that place where we are living for others; you know, your mom, dad, husband, and the most common, your children. Hmmm, now you're thinking.

The truth of the matter is that you will never be truly happy until you are living YOUR life for YOU. Oh, I know, I know. That's oftentimes easier said than done. "Why is that?!", you ask. For many of us putting others first has been an important element of parenting, quite often learned from our own parents, or in my case, from my mother. :) For others, putting others first is a means of acceptance, never wanting to rock the boat for fear of falling out, or even worse, being pushed out. Then there are those who may simply feel good when putting others first. I think we all experience this feeling a bit. Lastly, there are those who feel undeserving of being first. So, they put everyone before themselves because they feel unworthy and inferior. Now, please recognize that it may even be a combination of any of the aforementioned reasons. Whatever the reason may be, there comes a point when living your life for you becomes imperative.

What happens when there's no one left for you to put first? The children are grown. Your parents accept that you must live for you, because that's what they're doing now, or they've passed away. Your spouse wants you to live for you or you have no spouse/ significant other. At this stage of our lives many of us are here already, or fast approaching this place. What now? I'll tell you what! Now you have to figure out how to live YOUR life for YOU! Wow! Overwhelming isn't it? That's okay. It can definitely be done.

I suggest you start at the easiest point. Ask yourself, "What makes me happy? What do I like to do?" In so doing, the goal is to find your passion. What are you passionate about?!?! What makes you smile just by thinking about it? No, I'm not talking about your "honey"! LOL. You can't make a living and/or serve your purpose that way! Ok, wait, maybe you can, but that's a different story, for a very different day, and an extremely different blog!! Hey!! Let's get back on task, lol, anywhoo. As I was just about to say before we digressed, your passion is your purpose. It's the thing that will allow you to serve others and make their lives better, while living your absolute best life.

Go figure, sounds too good to be true, huh? Well, it's not! When you find that thing that you're passionate about you'd do it for free, unlike your job that you hate. However, you need not do it for free, because you'll be soooo good at it that someone is bound to pay you to do it! More importantly, you'll enrich YOUR life, while enriching the lives of others, and putting YOU first. Now what's better than that?!? Passion found, purpose, found, life enjoyed! Isn't that what this journey is all about reaching that Fabulous, 40, and Financially Free place? Well, I hope this takes you one step closer.
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Live YOUR life!!!!